Today was Ezra’s first birthday.
You read that right. First birthday, not fifth. No typo there. This is the first birthday that Ezra, who is turing five, has ever had. He told us that no one at “the building” in China had birthdays.
It was a really great day that started out wild! He was so excited that it was his birthday, he woke up talking about it and couldn’t contain himself.
It was a super sweet time and very important to us that Ezra had a “party” with other kids like Chandler and Noah did while in Livingston.
The kids in their class loved celebrating with him by singing the birthday song (one girl tried to sing it in Spanish), and having a little dance party after eating their treats. The teacher thought the treats were especially creative.
After dinner we had some cake and presents. Tasha suggested we buy him a few small things to open so it would seem more like the experience that the other kids had, even though it wasn’t a party with all of our good friends.
When we asked him in the previous weeks what kind of party he wanted he had suggested that we watch Big Hero 6 and have popcorn (I guess he was thinking about Chandler & Noah’s party—we had an outdoor movie night, and it was rad). Even though he later changed his mind to want a Jake & The Neverland Pirates theme, we still had popcorn and watched Big Hero 6.
Overall it was a great day, but then unexpectedly and at bedtime, the hard part came. He asked about birthdays and being born. It’s the first time we’ve really talked to him about his “China mama” and the first time we’ve seen him cry or truly grieve for his other mom or his former life in China. He asked some other questions about having another dad and such. It was tough, but we did our best to answer truthfully and at an age appropriate level. We reassured him that we love him very much and that we’re glad he is a part of this family! Adoption is a story that from the very beginning is built on loss and heartache, but it is beautiful and redemptive in so many ways.